“YALE CLASS OF 2015,” the news feed shouts. “MIT 2015!” “Bye to Boston, Hello Atlanta!” The mind of a senior who hasn’t gotten into college yet is a balloon stretched taut by the tension of online notifications, then punctured by a thousand Facebook status needles.
At a time when even Wayland teachers are being instructed to try to alleviate the college application stress, the Internet is making the situation worse.
Every year, the December WHSPO newsletter contains a message to parents and students, asking them to keep applications private. Bringing applications into public, says Guidance Department Chair Marybeth Sacramone, only adds to students’ stress.
“We would ask that you continue to keep your classrooms as ‘college-free zones,’” an e-mail from the guidance department to high school teachers reads. “Although many [students] will have good news to share, we never know who is right beside that student agonizing over bad news they just heard, or because they have not begun their own future planning process yet.”
Controlling the classrooms, however, is no longer enough. Nowhere is the likelihood of a senior getting stressed out higher than on Facebook.
A senior’s Facebook status almost always reflects his or her college situation; acceptance is writ large in capitalized exclamations, rejection in silence. The success of others strikes doubt and worry into readers’ hearts, and silence only serves to make the acceptances more prominent.
With nothing but “I GOT INTO COLLEGE,” as far as the eye can see, the message on Facebook is, “Get in, or else.”
Facebook isn’t the only area where the Internet is adding to stress. Colleges themselves, by notifying applicants online, are building tension. Many colleges now send an e-mail message specifying when they will post their answer, down to the minute, days in advance.
Before this practice began, students couldn’t know when exactly the letter would come, so they couldn’t stress themselves out as much. Then, they’d know their answer as soon as they saw the letter, completely dispensing with suspense.
Not so with online notification. Students wait anxiously for the hour when they can rush online and learn their fates, working themselves into a frenzy of suspense. I know from experience that schoolwork falls by the wayside during the stressful days leading up to a notification.
There is a symbolic effect of the Internet’s new influence on applications: this year’s so-far diminutive Wayland Wall of Shame. The Wall of Shame has always been a comfort for struggling seniors, a place where they can post their rejection letters amongst the collective disappointment of the grade.
Seniors silently commiserate with each other by posting on the Wall, and the Wall itself is a vivid reminder that not getting in is part of life, not the end of the world. Yet this year, the Wall stands nearly empty for lack of paper acceptance letters. Rejection has become digital.
georgieporgie • Mar 24, 2011 at 9:55 PM
all i have to say to this is that we live in
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a reader • Feb 2, 2011 at 4:50 PM
I'm amazed at the number of people who thinks it's OK to make others feel stressed. It shows a remarkable lack of empathy. Yes, your closest friends will be happy for you, but you can easily tell them face to face. Others, particularly those who have been deferred or rejected, are going to feel awful. The Wall of Shame is a great way to create community; boastful Facebook status updates create anxiety, isolation, and division. Just another example of how the boundaries for acceptable social behavior have been obliterated by egocentrism and the desire for your 15 minutes of fame.
Don't Worry About It • Jan 26, 2011 at 6:54 PM
If you haven't gotten into College yet..you shouldn't be on facebook to begin with…get off facebook and keep applying
anonymous • Jan 14, 2011 at 6:37 PM
I think the statuses are fine, I mean if I got into a school that I really wanted to go to then yeah i would probably post it on facebook so those who I don't come in contact with daily will be able to know and I will be able to tell them. Also, when kids get stressed about things I don't think that Facebook has a lot to do with it because a lot of schools that people are stressed about getting into are school that people were stressed out about way before facebook existed. I think that it is more of society as a whole making kids more stressed about getting into college because society is basically saying "If you don't go to college you won't have a happy life." Anyways other than that I thought it was a very well written article, keep up the good work.
Guest • Jan 23, 2011 at 8:41 PM
i agree with everything with what you said but the ending so sorrry about the -1
name • Jan 12, 2011 at 9:19 PM
i don't think you should have used exact quotes from facebook. since facebook is so popular many people know who you are specifically referring to.
leveler • Jan 12, 2011 at 4:28 PM
if the wall of shame is a comfort then post your letter there
senior11 • Jan 12, 2011 at 11:47 AM
i don't understand why people shouldn't be proud of the fact that they got into college. those who get rejected and hate those statuses are clearly just bitter.
senior 11 also • Jan 13, 2011 at 12:21 AM
amen sister
sdf • Jan 20, 2011 at 7:23 AM
amen amen sister
Guest • Jan 6, 2011 at 8:56 AM
Excellent writing. Well done. Fantastic balloon metaphor.
Fellow Schoolgoer • Jan 5, 2011 at 7:54 PM
there is no typo?
Aaron, I'm likin' the balloon metaphor
facebooker • Jan 5, 2011 at 12:17 PM
I HATE THOSE STATUSES! i saw one that really angered me…i don't remember who said it/what it said exactly but it was something like "everyone is going to get rejected. except me! YAY SOME COLLEGE 2015" that was EASILY the worst/meanest/annoying status ever. basically laughing at everyone who gets rejected while rejoicing that they didn't so they are better. ugh. and the worst part is that a lot of people 'liked' it. i'm not even applying to colleges now but it still bothered me…i can't imagine what that would be like to someone who has gotten rejected from lots of places
Guest • Jan 7, 2011 at 10:02 AM
The status you're referring to actually said something more along the lines of, "except me TONIGHT" (emphasis mine). Changes the tone substantially, wouldn't you agree? Certainly all the people who responded enthusiastically understood the difference.
Typo • Jan 5, 2011 at 1:52 AM
". know from experience"
wspn01778 • Jan 6, 2011 at 1:56 PM
The typo has been fixed. Thank for your careful eye!
Melanie Wang • Jan 6, 2011 at 1:57 PM
The typo has been fixed. Thanks for your careful eye!