Opinion: Slut-shaming is not okay
October 10, 2014
On Thursday night, the senior superlatives nominations list was posted. Minutes later, outrage erupted in the WHS Seniors Facebook group about the different superlatives that were missing. One superlative in the past has been used, just for girls, as a euphemism for school slut.
Yearbook editors did not include the superlative this year, while some classmates were adamant about adding it.
There is a clear double standard between genders when one is accused of having multiple partners. When a guy gets around, he is called a player, or at worst, he is jokingly called a man-whore. His behavior is excused or even lauded, while when a girl is called a slut, she becomes someone who is looked down upon or a joke.
As Allison Reynolds in “The Breakfast Club” says: “Well, if you say you haven’t, you’re a prude. If you say you have, you’re a slut. It’s a trap.”
Here’s an idea: A person’s sex life is his or her own choice. With whom a woman chooses to have sexual relations does not affect any of her peers. If you were to look around a room, you couldn’t tell the difference between someone who has sex and someone who doesn’t. This is because a person’s sexual activity is in no way reflected in his or her appearance, clothing or personality.
A girl’s body is hers and hers alone, and that means her rules. She can do whatever she wants with it and does not deserve to be judged and labeled.
And girls, let’s be honest here. We’ve all called someone a slut before, and it needs to stop. Take a page from our mutual favorite movie: “Mean Girls.” “You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.”
Calling someone a slut doesn’t make you better. In fact, using “slut” and “whore” as derogatory terms will impede our advancement in society. You’re not just bringing that person down, you’re bringing down all women.
It is shocking that there were people in support of this superlative, especially girls. Why is voting on and sticking the label “slut” onto someone so enjoyable for some people?
This topic shouldn’t be up for debate. Someone should have spoken out against the superlative in the Facebook group. Staying silent while misogynist comments are being made is just as bad as making those comments. Having said that, we applaud anyone who spoke out against the superlative and urge them to continue. Speak out against slut shaming, so people know that it’s not okay. You can’t call yourself a “feminist” or for “the equality of the sexes” if you aren’t active in promoting that equality. You need to be active in the fight, not a bystander.
Next time you see slut-shaming in action, speak out.
EDITOR’S NOTE: This opinion piece was written after the decision was made by the yearbook staff to remove the superlative from this year’s yearbook.
Opinion articles written by staff members represent their personal views. The opinions expressed do not necessarily represent WSPN as a publication.
Ghnadi • Apr 17, 2015 at 1:08 PM
If you can't do the time, don't do the crime…. #Ghandi
user • Nov 18, 2014 at 8:59 AM
hahahah
Calm down • Oct 23, 2014 at 8:18 PM
Calm down
Alumni • Oct 17, 2014 at 8:24 AM
As an alumni of WHS I'm glad to see this superlative go. It was frequently used in a mean-spirited way and has no place at WHS. And for those of you asking for "feminist articles" to be kept off WSPN, this is a news site. Yes it is targeted to a high school community, but it's still here to present news/opinions of the WHS community.
Would you react the same way if someone wrote an opinion article about anything else? Probably not as evidenced by the lack of comments on every other opinion article on this site (don't believe me, check the "opinion" tag). This is an important issue for high school students to be aware of and I am glad it's being written about!
yea so • Oct 15, 2014 at 9:48 PM
You know your side of the argument is correct when the best the other side can come up with is:
– name-calling ("Liberals")
– telling people to grow a thicker skin (blacks in the south in the 50s probably should've toughened up as well)
– writing in all caps
– saying "who cares".
Nice article.
Anonymous (for now) • Oct 15, 2014 at 9:05 PM
While I agree that maybe the superlative was somewhat innapropriate (for it's supposed use), the points you made do not connect at all. I'd like to make my first point, as most of the people I know were not thinking of this superlative as a "slut-shaming." And two, the fact that you make this big of a deal of it somewhat makes you slut shamers for mentioning that this term, "most spirited," which in fact, has been used in past yearbooks, is the way to point out the senior class slut. You basically just called every other person who has been nominated for most spirited sluts. Most people didn't see this superlative as "class slut" anyways.
Now, one thing that really irritates me about this article is why does it have to be all about girls? Guy's have "standards" that they have to live up to as well. For example, among our community, if I guy doesn't have sex with his girlfriend or a girl, or wants to treat his girlfriend right, or just in general sucks with interacting with females, he all together, by both guys and GIRLS (the innocence here), is called a pussy, or pussy whipped, or is just in general teased. Like seriously, it's a superlative, it's not being included in the yearbook, and now you need to get over it. Females aren't the only ones who are judged for what they do and what they don't do, and being a bigot and a feminist doesn't make you guys any better, nor does it make you seem more educated than you really are.
Listen • Oct 15, 2014 at 7:25 PM
The people in the comments are really just being mean. A lot of your comments are about how slut-shaming is great and essentially you are saying that girls should be called out on this kind of thing. But, it's their own life! Don't be mean to people based on their private sex life! God, stop judging people and putting them down for doing what they want and just mind your own business. You are honestly just being a bully if you think slut-shaming is okay. It's bullying.
fred • Oct 15, 2014 at 2:21 PM
Wspn had nothing to do with the removal of the superlative- it had already been removed. Wspn did not affect administration whatsoever. Even though not many people knew that "most school spirit" meant "biggest slut" if some people were offended by it then it should be removed. How can anyone possibly still be advocating to keep the "most school spirit superlative". Even if you personally were not aware of it meaning "biggest slut" if some people are getting offended then take it down.
Don'tWorryBoutIt • Oct 15, 2014 at 12:14 PM
Honestly I believe that if the superlative does mean than then it should be removed. However, after speaking with several other students, not everyone knew that and because this article was posted people are now looking back at older year books to see who got it in those years. Which could be a bad thing because for some years that could have been true, but in other years school spirit probably actually meant school spirit, so students who weren't actually a "slut" are now being seen as a slut. Also if WHS seniors have a secret group on facebook and they're having a private discussion then it shouldn't then be put on blast for the whole school to know about. Thumbs up for bringing up the issue, but thumbs down for how u came about doing it.
LISTEN UP! • Oct 15, 2014 at 9:44 AM
Okay. First of all, this is like the scarlet letter when you have to wear a red A. it doesn't just stay in the school your parents could find out, etc. That could be horrible and very embarrassing! I'm glad we got rid of it! It's awful to feel like everyone is against you like that! Sex is supposed to be a good thing, not a bad thing. People have the right to their own sex life and shouldn't be put down for it. THAT WON'T MAKE SEX A GOOD THING! PEOPLE WILL FOREVER ONLY VIEW IT AS SOMETHING THAT IF THEY DO THEY'LL BE HEARING ABOUT IT FOR A LONG TIME AFTER! Why should it matter someone else's sex life. The only one you should worry about is your own! Slut is such a derogatory term that people won't see sex as something that is okay. Are we going back to puritan times when if you had sex you had been "touched by the devil". Sex isn't a bad thing, its totally natural and people shouldn't be upset if they want to or don't want to do it. It's everyones choice and people shouldn't judge or make them feel bad for the choices they make!!!!
Butt Lumpkins • Oct 15, 2014 at 8:49 PM
I completely agree
With that train of thought in mind, then being a slut is a good thing
I'm pretty sure nobody has a problem with sluts
The sluts I know are actually really nice people
Tin Can • Oct 14, 2014 at 11:21 PM
How long does it usually take for the comments to be approved? What's even the point of it if they could just let them all be posted and just delete the mean ones
Rachel • Oct 14, 2014 at 10:22 PM
I'm kind of appalled by the ignorance and vitriol of those accusing WSPN of promoting a liberal or feminist agenda. If you think that a basic venture to treat female students with respect is an example of liberal or feminist bias, the issue lies with you, and not with the journalistic integrity of WSPN (also, this is an opinion piece, and is therefore not representative of WSPN's views, so your criticisms of WSPN's "slant" are bogus.) This sort of behavior and is part of why transferred out of Wayland.
senior • Oct 18, 2014 at 1:50 PM
amen! ALL people deserve to be treated with respect. this article has really brought out people's true colors.
student • Oct 20, 2014 at 6:22 PM
Thank god for your comment.
Charles Wines • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:24 PM
Ight dope
get over it • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:22 PM
People need to get over it honestly. It's silly. Just because you're uncomfortable with it doesn't mean you have to mess it up for everyone. Like suck it up ya'll act like the damn world is ending.
Tyr0n3 • Oct 14, 2014 at 8:23 PM
I like how WSPN is not approving certain select few comments
Loving this "open forum"
Mia Senechal (EDITOR) • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:04 PM
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WSPN • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:31 PM
If you have any questions about why some comments are not approved, please refer to our comments policy here: https://waylandstudentpress.com/policies/.
annoyed at this • Oct 14, 2014 at 7:35 PM
It's complete BS that a couple of liberals think they have the right to make big decisions for the class because they're the only ones who decided they wanted to spend their senior year making a yearbook. What happens in the senior Facebook page should stay in the senior Facebook page and I can't believe people are actually defending this article. Especially when the overwhelming majority of seniors (a healthy mix of both genders) want the superlative to remain. It should be pointed out that the limited number of seniors who seem to be advocating for the removal of the superlative all seem to be the same gender and from the same friend group. One friend group shouldn't be able to make decisions for the whole class. Take a vote and I'm confident over 75% of the senior class would prefer the superlative in the yearbook. And what the majority of the class wants the majority of the class should get.
Victoria Ordeman • Nov 19, 2014 at 10:07 PM
1) Clearly you have a skewed view of that the label "liberal" means since you are treating it in a derogotory manner. The definition of Liberal reads as follows: open to new behavior or opinions and willing to discard traditional values. Therefore, the opinion of "liberals" is not "complete BS".
2) You could have very well signed up to work on the yearbook and make your opinions in that forum heard. If you have such a strong opinion on what is and isn't in the yearbook, you should have signed up yourself.
3) Facebook is a public forum. Even if your group is "private" or "secret", there is no legal privacy to what is said or posted, so the people who wrote this article have full rights to post what was said. If you don't want your comments made known, don't make them at all.
4) You do not know what percentage of your class favors or opposes the ridding of this superlative. Even if a majority of your peers supports having this superlative, that does not make it "right" or mean that it should be socially accepted as such. Every major social movement in history began as a minority movement and gained popularity and legislative support as more and more people realized that their views were not what they should be. Before the 1960's, a majority of people believed that blacks were a lesser race. Homosexuality was removed from the APA list of Mental Disorders in 2008 and their equality is still being fought for as a social issue. History repeats itself, recognize that fact and act and think accordingly.
5) This opinion of women has been socially conditioned into your behaviors. Slut shaming is unacceptable. There is an article that clearly lays out this exact same phenomenon in reference to women being called "crazy" and is 100% applicable to this situation in reference to calling girls "sluts". The article is A Message To Women From A Man: You Are Not “Crazy” By Yashar Ali and is easily found on google. Please read it and enlighten yourself to the negative impact that these types of social conditioning.
I am posting this under my real name because I have no shame in voicing my opinion. If you have an issue with or question on anything I have said, please feel free to message me on Facebook.
Rachel • Oct 14, 2014 at 7:30 PM
To everyone defending the superlative with some argument along the lines of "but it's not a big deal, it's just a superlative, calm down!", consider the flipside of the argument. Would you not say that it is more important to stand up against slut shaming than to maintain a stupid superlative?
pepe • Oct 14, 2014 at 7:24 PM
people need to get a thicker skin
Butt Lumpkins • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:37 PM
Oh I think they're already quite thick
wow • Oct 14, 2014 at 3:12 PM
If this superlative bothers you so much and you don't win it, just don't worry about it . It's been in the year books before, so I don't know why this has to be a problem now. And even if it were related to being slutty (which some people think), it's honestly just a popularity contest. No one is harmed; everyone laughs it off… like calm down.
Proud to be gone • Oct 14, 2014 at 12:56 PM
The comments under this are actually repulsive. I can't decide whether it's funny or embarassing how ignorant some of you sound. God I'm glad I no longer go to this school! It's not even about the superlative or what it means it's honestly how rude and hateful you all sound towards women and the people who wrote this that's the problem. Get it together people… Once you get out of the bubble of rich Wayland you're gonna have a real wake up call. I hope it teaches you something!
Butt Lumpkins • Oct 14, 2014 at 2:56 PM
I feel your pain
Senior • Oct 14, 2014 at 8:23 PM
you're so happy you don't go to the school yet you're reading the school's news. Sounds like you really hate Wayland alright.
Dank • Oct 14, 2014 at 10:59 PM
stfu it keeps appearing on Facebook feeds
Disappointed Reader • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:07 AM
remember when your news wasn't photo galleries and feminist opinion articles? I miss that
dumb • Oct 14, 2014 at 2:26 AM
feminists – CALM DOWN
anon • Oct 18, 2014 at 1:47 PM
why should it be okay for our school to call a girl a slut in our yearbook? please tell me why you think that sounds like a good idea, because to me it seems like a very derogatory term. The comments section of this article proves why feminism is necessary – because it seems that some people still don't understand that women and men BOTH should be treated with respect.
Victoria • Nov 19, 2014 at 9:14 PM
You named yourself well, you clearly are dumb
smart • Nov 19, 2014 at 9:19 PM
To be a feminist does not mean bra-burning, picketing, and "down with men" activism. Being a feminist means that you support equal rights for women. This includes equality in the labels women are placed under, like slut, a demeaning title that has no reciprocal for men.
student • Oct 14, 2014 at 1:23 AM
i'm neither arguing for or against this rule change BUT what i do want to say to the students that are "outraged" by this change in superlative: you need to transfer your outrage towards the TEACHERS, not the students or administrators.
we have excellent administrators. you all have no clue how lucky we are that we have actually good administrators. they're smart and understand students, but most importantly they understand their boundary as administrators better than anyone. but unfortunately what has happened over the past couple of years (ask anyone involved with student council in the class of 2013 or 2014 or 2015 who actually knows this. they know its true.) is that teachers have gained more and more power and the school is increasingly being curved towards their opinions and beliefs. now this wouldn't be a bad thing if the majority of teachers opinions were represented (or at least the opinions of generally liked teachers) but unfortunately they're not. there are certain radical teachers in this school that have hijacked the microphone from the rest of the teachers and now exert more power over the school than the administrators, parents or students. and trust me these are not the "cool" teachers. i'm almost certain that this change in policy came about because of one of these teachers either over-hearing a conversation and bringing it up in a faculty meeting or something of that nature.
check out this article: https://waylandstudentpress.com/2013/12/18/adminis… the administration changed the "Feared by Freshman" superlative because the TEACHERS (not all teachers but most likely a select group that have taken control) didn't like it.
Why is Spirit Day going to get canned? Teachers don't like being out of the classroom (their "comfortable" space).
Why is Winter Week getting shortened every year? Teachers want more class time.
So students need to understand that if you want to keep the traditions that you keep so dear (again, I'm not arguing for or against this tradition, but most traditions in general) then you need to lead a fight against the teachers, not administration.
Dystopia • Oct 14, 2014 at 9:26 PM
unions man
Guest • Oct 14, 2014 at 12:16 AM
Wspn and yearbook are not connected. Different organizations. And opinion articles are just that — the opinion of the writers, not even necessarily the opinion of all of wspn. If any students want to voice their opinions, they can write opinion pieces for wspn too.
Entire Senior Class • Oct 13, 2014 at 8:44 PM
IT LITERALLY IS ALL YOUR FAULT THAT THE SUPERLATIVE WAS REMOVED BECAUSE YOU MADE THIS ARTICLE WHICH SHOWED ADMINISTRATION WAY TO LOSE A TRADITION AND MY SUPPORT OF WSPN YALL ARE AWFUL
Bill Bo • Oct 14, 2014 at 12:51 AM
This
So much this
annoyed • Dec 3, 2014 at 10:11 AM
the article came out after the superlative was removed
Most Spirited Guy • Oct 13, 2014 at 7:44 PM
Who gave you the right to take what we post in the Facebook group. This is the most liberal article i've ever read. Its a Wayland High School tradition, read about it
live a little
Rachel • Oct 14, 2014 at 12:27 PM
So here's the thing…when you post something on Facebook, you don't have expectation of privacy over that thing because it's ON FACEBOOK.
Victoria • Nov 19, 2014 at 9:10 PM
Facebook is a public forum, don't be ignorant
Irritated • Oct 13, 2014 at 4:27 PM
The decision to remove the superlative was made by the administration and NOT by any of the yearbook staff. If you want to have a say in the process of determining superlatives, take it up with administration and stop bothering people who can't do anything about it.
WhothehellCares • Oct 12, 2014 at 10:01 PM
" Next time you see slut-shaming in action, speak out."
Indeed I will, the next time I hear slut shaming, I'll add my voice to the chorus.
EveryoneShouldCare • Oct 13, 2014 at 11:41 PM
Congratulations, you've upgraded yourself from ignorance to willful bigotry.
Butt Lumpkins • Oct 14, 2014 at 1:20 PM
Congratulations, you've upgraded from humorless liberal to pretentious humorless liberal
common sense • Oct 14, 2014 at 7:52 PM
Well this is one of the most messed up things I've ever heard. FU.
Mike Goodman • Oct 12, 2014 at 9:48 PM
I am all for opinion pieces and I love WSPN, but this article was written with bad taste and just rambles. I understand wanted to write about the topic, so next time please remove the anger and maybe it would make a little more sense and flow better. Thanks.
Yikes pt II • Oct 12, 2014 at 5:44 PM
^more like a tumblr rant
Butt Lumpkins • Oct 12, 2014 at 11:01 PM
Amen
Concerned • Oct 12, 2014 at 5:08 PM
As a senior I agree with Student. Who are whitney and nina to speak for all of us
The problem is that people take slut as an insult. Im proud when im called a slut. ITS NOT AN INSULT
If we keep doin this than we'll never fix anything. Go back to getting checked on fb and stop trying to speak for all girls plz and thanks
Bill Bo • Oct 14, 2014 at 1:18 PM
Seriously this is some legitimate forward thinking
It's nice to know there are still some outside of the box thinkers 😉
2014 • Oct 21, 2014 at 9:34 PM
youre proud when youre called a slut? Really WHS? is this what its come to? Oh my god i am so glad i am out of wayland high school. jesus you guys really do live in your own little world.
Yourebetterthanthat • Nov 19, 2014 at 9:06 PM
It's hard for me to even dignify this with a response since you clearly have no inkling of respect for yourself and for your fellow female peers. We live in a society that is a male-dominated society that I understand has conditioned you to think in this fashion, I hope that one day you'll realize you're more than the degrading term that you currently somehow find pride in.
Yikes • Oct 12, 2014 at 1:25 PM
I miss the days when WSPN produced articles people actually cared about. Now it's just one-sided opinion piece articles. This belongs on a feminism blog, not a highschool website.
kdiddy • Oct 12, 2014 at 6:40 PM
it's called an opinion article.
Just Sayin • Oct 13, 2014 at 10:25 PM
A good opinion article acknowledges the other point of view…just saying
Student • Oct 12, 2014 at 12:45 PM
From a girl: enough. we don't have some sort of right as women to pick and choose which superlatives offend us and which don't. Also, while it may offend you..like you said many of the seniors (girls included) want the superlative back. What gives you the right as someone who handles the yearbook to take away something that is clearly wanted by BOTH genders? If anything, there should be a vote.
Leah • Oct 11, 2014 at 6:00 PM
Really cool article, thanks for standing up and saying something. This is so important, props to you guys. Thank you.
Alex • Oct 11, 2014 at 1:44 PM
While I am a guy, and can't comment on how women feel about this, I want to point out that this article doesn't really connect the 2 ideas. First you reference the lack of certain superlatives, highlight one, and then start discussing slut-shaming and misogyny. And while slut-shaming and misogyny are terrible and shouldn't happen, you don't provide anything about what makes that particular superlative slut-shaming. Never have I heard anyone refer to it that way, and never have a felt that the girl who won it was in any way anything other than someone who was extremely dedicated to their school. I just wish that there were some facts or quotes to back up how you feel about this particular issue.
hey • Oct 11, 2014 at 8:29 AM
who cares?
... • Oct 23, 2014 at 8:21 PM
Not me, thats who.
educated student • Nov 19, 2014 at 9:00 PM
I care. By calling a woman a slut, you are de-valuing her and judging her based on who she sleeps with. As the article states, there is no male equivalent for a slut. Even if you call him a "man-whore" you need clarify that it is a man, which shows that the term "whore" is viewed in context to a woman, and that men are not judged in the same way for having multiple sexual relations. Using this term to de-value women and thus state that they are less then men essentially means that you are advocating for inequality between men and women. While I know this is a jump, by participating in this act of inequality you are insinuating that women are lesser members of society then men and should be treated as such i.e. unequal pay, and unequal jobs.